To mothers considering adoption,
I am a mother who actually went through the adoption process in order to give my beautiful baby girl the chance at the life she deserved.
Adoption is not right for all mothers and in the end you really have to search your own feelings and pray for God’s guidance. Place it in His hands and you will know what is right for you.
While what I did was a mistake, nothing will ever make me believe Anna Beth was a mistake. She is a princess sent to me from God. Knowing that, I also knew I could never give her the life she deserved. I am a young adult trying to go to college and don’t have the finances to take care of her.
Also, many adoptive families are more than happy to let you be a part of the child’s life. I could not ask for a better family for Anna Beth than the one she is with right now. While they do live in a different state, they send me pictures and letters letting me know everything she is going through. I write her and the family, it is a really neat situation.
As a soon to be mother, I know you are going through a plethora of emotions. (At least I was.) I am not going to tell you I know what you are going through because, truth be told, everyone handles things differently.
I can tell you my feelings and thoughts about my choices during my pregnancy and how much Christian Family Services helped me.
This is my story:
I am 19 years old and now a sophomore in college. I was with my boyfriend for years (since freshman year of high school). Finally, when I moved to Gainesville to go off to college, we decided to take our relationship to the next level. I thought it would be okay, we were talking about getting married and about having children together.
Well, the life I had envisioned for years came to a screeching halt when right after we did that [had sex], he began to abuse me physically and emotionally.
He would hit me so hard I would fly across the room and call me a fat cow and say I would never make it through med school because I could never be that intelligent. Med school had been a dream of mine since I can remember. So, that just killed me. Knowing everything my mom went through in a previous marriage (before me), I knew I could not go through the same thing. So, I left him and half a month later I found out I was pregnant!
At first I was so terrified: I had no idea of what to do.
Then I prayed and cleared my mind. I knew I could never abort the child even though I had plenty of time to do that. She deserved a chance at life more than I did. I also knew my family was going through so much with my grandparents that I could not tell them.
So I knew (with God’s guidance) that adoption was the best option for her, my family and me.
I also knew the father could never find out about her. He would hurt her like he did me.
-A Mom Who Has Been There, CFS Birth Mom
P.S. Here is a verse that holds strong meaning to me and helped me through a lot of hard time, “I know the plans I have for you…plans to bring about the future you hope for.” – Jeremiah 29:11
Check back next Monday to read the rest of the story from “A mom who’s been there”