An unplanned pregnancy can be a difficult and stressful time for a woman. You have tons of decisions to be made. On top of that, your hormones are all over, making your emotions run high. Since every woman is different, you may not go through the same experiences as most other women do, or you may experience one or more of these common emotions.
No matter, you do not have to be alone with these emotions! Caseworkers at Christian Family Services hope to give you helpful ways to process your emotions so they do not over whelm you. Read on and consider how you can work through your emotions.
Fear is one of the most common emotions that many women with unplanned pregnancies feel. Especially when you want to give up your baby for adoption. Many questions fill your mind. You will have indecision. You will wonder “what’s right for the baby?” weigh heavily on your mind.
There is the fear of the unknown. When this child is grown, will he/she have feelings of resentment about my choice to place for adoption? All these fears can bog down an expectant mother and make the adoption feel scary and hard, but there are ways to reduce some of these fears.
The very first step is to find a good adoption agency. Find one that provides emotional support and counseling during and after the delivery of your baby. ASK QUESTIONS of the agency. Ask all that is on your mind. Ask all about the process of adoption and what is expected for the future. Ask what will happen if you change your mind about the adoption. Ask about the adoptive families! Don’t hold back any questions! Lastly get to know the adoptive parents. Your adoption agency will facilitate ways for you to get to know the adoptive parents that you have chosen. As you get to know them the fears of the future of your child should lessen.
Christian Family Services an adoption agency that ministers to expectant mothers, giving you options for your unplanned pregnancy. We are a non-profit adoption agency, located in Jacksonville, Ocala, Gainesville, Tallahassee, and anywhere in between! Yes, in Florida. We can help you understand all of the options for your baby, and prepare you for what adoption looks like. We have qualified adoptive parents for you to choose from for your baby.
Denial is another emotion you may go through with an unplanned pregnancy. It is not uncommon to try and avoid the reality of an unplanned pregnancy. For some expectant mothers, this denial can last all the way up until birth, forever hoping the pregnancy isn’t real or won’t happen.
But, to process through the loss of a child to adoption, you must first acknowledge that it is a loss for you. The only way to move through the grief of “giving a child up” for adoption is to let yourself experience your feelings. Only once you have processed the trauma of “giving up” a baby for adoption can you reach a place of acceptance and move forward with your life in a healthy way.
Allow yourself to experience and process these feelings! Yes, this can be scary and difficult. It’s important that you don’t try to go it alone; an adoption agency can help you learn how to deal with adoption grief in a healthy, positive way.
Caseworkers from Christian Family Services minister to expectant women during and after an unplanned pregnancy. We meet with you where you are most comfortable. We listen to what you want for this baby and for yourself. We can help you understand what adoption looks like and the emotions of placing a child for adoption.
Thank you for reading part one of the Emotions of Unplanned Pregnancy. Keep a watch out for part 2 where we talk about anger, guilt, sadness, and lastly peace.
We are ready to answer your call or text to discuss judgment free options with you. Consider your options for your unplanned pregnancy. Call or text 24/7 to speak to a caseworker.
UNDERSTANDING POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE: Blog posts of Christian Family Services are written using words people search for if they are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. To reach women and provide options to them, we use language our SEO agency suggests, not the positive adoption language we prefer to use! We consider women making an adoption plan as wanting to place her child with an adoptive family, but many times she first uses words like “give my baby up” for adoption.